Rumour mills have been having field days since early this year with speculations that America's former first couple Michelle and Barack Obama were heading for a divorce after over 3 decades together. 

These rumours were further fuelled by Michelle's step back from the public eye which saw Barack attending one too many events like President Trump's inauguration by himself.

A clear sign of trouble in paradise for online sleuths. It's literally the equivalent of couple's abruptly stopping tagging each other in posts and finally unfollowing each other on social media. 

After months of speculations human rights activist, author, and actress Michelle Obama is finally addressing the dealings that have been going on online, why she has been missing from her hubby's side and setting things clear on the "pending divorce" narrative that has been carried blogs and keyboard warriors alike. 

Addressing her noticeable absence the mother of 2 shared how that within her echelon and with friends/partners who have been sending them invites no one has ever questioned her absence.

Revealing that on the contrary her social circle very much understands her and finds no fault with her turning down the invites to these political events. 

“The interesting thing is that when I say ‘no,’ for the most part, people are like, ‘I get it,’ and I’m OK,” the 61-year-old author shared during a guest appearance she made on Sophia Bush’s “Work in Progress” podcast.

She went on to highlight how the rumours are a flaw with our society hence why it all baffled her. 

Michelle asserts her and Barack are not getting a divorce, and things are super peachy in their camp. Her absence was just a personal decision she made (which she feels most women struggle to bring themselves to do so) to sit the politics out especially seeing as she is no longer the first lady and her calendar isn't planned out by other people. 

According to Mrs. Obama the fact that people automatically assumed that they had separated after 32 years together just because she chose to do things that pleased isn't of pleasing society by honouring invites, she didn't want to attend and be at places just so she can be seen with her husband just highlighted how society views women and treats them as a male appendage. 

“And that’s the thing that we as women struggle with... disappointing people. So much so that people, they couldn’t even fathom that I was making a choice for myself, that they had to assume that my husband and I are divorcing," The human rights activist candidly shared letting out a soft chuckle.

Adding, “But that’s what society does to us. We actually finally start going, then it's like 'What am I doing? Who am I doing this for?’ And if it doesn’t fit into the sort of stereotype of what people think we should do, then it gets labelled as something negative and horrible.”

Michelle further added at the fact that the internet had decided that she couldn’t possibly be “a grown woman just making a set of decisions for herself,” as she laughed off the idea of divorcing her husband. 

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Wrapping up Michelle pointed out that as someone who has already clocked 60 and with grown daughters who are well in their 20's she feels it’s “time to make some big girl decisions” in her life and “own it fully.”

“If not now, when? What am I waiting for?” She posed the question. Adding, “Now is the time for me to start asking myself these hard questions of, ‘Who do I truly want to be every day?’ And that changes. So, who do I want to have a lunch with? How long do I want to stay in a place? Do I want to travel? If a girlfriend calls and says, ‘Let’s go here,’ I can say ‘Yes!’ I can. And I’m trying to do that more and more.”